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anon1
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 Posted - 14 Jan 2010 : 8:34:06 PM
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Did you want a relationship with her?
4w3 sx/sp/so
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Kanji
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Posted - 14 Jan 2010 : 11:59:30 PM
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I think Eights would be the least likely to play head games romantically or otherwise.  |
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dfgray44
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Posted - 15 Jan 2010 : 01:00:50 AM
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Originally posted by Kanji
I think Eights would be the least likely to play head games romantically or otherwise.
The type most vigilant about not showing vulnerability? You kiddin' me?
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Kanji
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Posted - 15 Jan 2010 : 02:00:59 AM
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Good point - yet they seem so direct and honest to a fault most of the time; even when unhealthy.quote:
Originally posted by dfgray44
quote:
Originally posted by Kanji
I think Eights would be the least likely to play head games romantically or otherwise.
The type most vigilant about not showing vulnerability? You kiddin' me?
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QueenSaturday
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Posted - 15 Jan 2010 : 02:39:34 AM
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Now,
It is not my intention to be abrasive, as I would certainly find a legitimate thread on Type Dating Styles incredibly fascinating.
Unfortunately, I'm still so baffled by the degree to which this specific topic is still being entertained. To me, this seems like an excellent example of where the larger culture trumps individual fixations, especially in the context of Date #2.
http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_100/122c_dating_advice.html
http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/relationship_mind_games.html
http://relationships.blog-city.com/mind_are_games_not_being_about_gender.htm
In my experience, serial dating leads to paranoid fantasies and loose associations that have nothing to do with such-and-such a type being conniving.
The following suggestion is oversimplified and lacks insight, but maybe you should either take a moment to consider where your own fixations are limiting your potential for a deep connection, or if that doesn't interest you, put down Wisdom and pick up The Game.
Oh, and good luck!
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Kanji
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Posted - 15 Jan 2010 : 02:47:32 AM
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Originally posted by QueenSaturday
Now,
It is not my intention to be abrasive, as I would certainly find a legitimate thread on Type Dating Styles incredibly fascinating.
You started such a thread and later deleted it. Why not rescue it?
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Sorry... that was someone else who started the dating styles thread. quote:
Originally posted by QueenSaturday
The following suggestion is oversimplified and lacks insight, but maybe you should either take a moment to consider where your own fixations are limiting your potential for a deep connection, or if that doesn't interest you, put down Wisdom and pick up The Game.
Oh, and good luck!
How did your 'date' with the 6w5 go? And are you going to tell us your previous identities on this board?  |
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QueenSaturday
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Posted - 15 Jan 2010 : 03:08:14 AM
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Originally posted by Kanji
You started such a thread and later deleted it. Why not rescue it?
Primarily, because I don't intend to be present on this board in a week's time and I'm more of a popcorn and archives kind of lady.
quote:
Originally posted by Kanji
How did your 'date' with the 6w5 go? And are you going to tell us your previous identities on this board?
Firstly, you're an awful person. But I figure 5w4 + 6w5, isn't over 'till it's over. Secondly, likely not. Most of it was throughout my formative 18-21 years, in which I stuck it out to maintain disturbing sexual fantasies about Deras, then off and on under silly names for <50 posts. Definitely not noteworthy.
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Kanji
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Posted - 15 Jan 2010 : 03:17:33 AM
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One thing you should understand while you're still young. You... are NOT a 'lady'.
Ciao.quote:
Originally posted by QueenSaturday
Primarily, because I don't intend to be present on this board in a week's time and I'm more of a popcorn and archives kind of lady.
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QueenSaturday
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Posted - 15 Jan 2010 : 03:23:38 AM
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Originally posted by Kanji
One thing you should understand while you're still young. You... are NOT a 'lady'.
And you certainly don't know me well enough to make that kind of claim. |
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Kanji
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Posted - 15 Jan 2010 : 03:25:34 AM
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I know enough about you to say with confidence, that you're dirty.quote:
Originally posted by QueenSaturday
And you certainly don't know me well enough to make that kind of claim.
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QueenSaturday
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Posted - 15 Jan 2010 : 03:27:49 AM
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Originally posted by Kanji
I know enough about you to say with confidence, that you're dirty.quote:
Originally posted by QueenSaturday
And you certainly don't know me well enough to make that kind of claim.
As long as you can say it with confidence. |
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Kanji
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Posted - 15 Jan 2010 : 03:49:12 AM
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quote:
Originally posted by QueenSaturday
Firstly, you're an awful person.
Secondly.....
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QueenSaturday
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Posted - 15 Jan 2010 : 03:58:03 AM
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Originally posted by Kanji
[quote]Originally posted by QueenSaturday
Firstly, you're an awful person.
Oh dear,
I wasn't being serious. And if I were the type to use emoticons, I would have used the one at the top with the pink face.
I hope you feel better! |
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Kanji
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Posted - 15 Jan 2010 : 04:05:07 AM
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Feeling okay, thanks. Don't you like the photo? It goes well, don't you think... quote:
Originally posted by QueenSaturday
I hope you feel better!
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QueenSaturday
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Posted - 15 Jan 2010 : 04:09:22 AM
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Originally posted by Kanji
Feeling okay, thanks. Don't you like the photo? It goes well, don't you think...
Oh, I'm not one for profanity unless I'm frustrated or frazzled. And I'm glad we got that cleared up.
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AstralScream
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Posted - 15 Jan 2010 : 04:13:22 AM
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Originally posted by Kanji
quote:
Originally posted by QueenSaturday
Firstly, you're an awful person.
Secondly.....
If only nuclear explosions really took that shape. I would think the world was being a tad more honest. |
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Kanji
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Posted - 15 Jan 2010 : 04:21:54 AM
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Well, let's clear something else up... there is nothing profane about the photo. It's a flame, nothing more. Do you find flames and fire profane? Or are you referring to the shape of the flame into a finger? If so, what is profane about a finger, except one's idea? Your idea may be different than mine, because I see nothing profane in it.
It could be that you see profanity when there is none, because you really are frustrated and/or frazzled. Perhaps better to use profanity for fun here and there... then you'd know the difference as to when something is REALLY profane and when it's not.
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Originally posted by QueenSaturday
Oh, I'm not one for profanity unless I'm frustrated or frazzled. And I'm glad we got that cleared up.
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QueenSaturday
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Posted - 15 Jan 2010 : 04:35:08 AM
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Dear Kanji,
Then we'll just leave it at fire isn't my style. For instance, for the last 15 minutes I've been Google Imaging the keywords: Dancing Ballerina Puppy. After reading your last response I came across a photo of a Golden Retriever puppy with a pair of pink panties in his mouth and I immediately connected with what you said about how profanity can be fun.
Look at that, you're affecting me.
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loscust
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Posted - 09 Jul 2012 : 02:04:36 AM
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The most game playing during courtship I've encountered with 4s of both wings, they had some deeply rooted insecurities that I was supposed to rescue from them, and with 6s and their propensity to test their partners and sporadic emotional reactivity. These were the most perplexing types I've dated.
The simplest was the gut triad, though with 9s it can be difficult to understand where they really stand until it's too late and they bail.
3s are usually quite straightforward. 2s will test for affection (am I important enough for you?)
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rockthrower
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Posted - 09 Jul 2012 : 05:05:42 AM
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I have found 8w7 is the type that plays the most games because commitment and intimacy don't seem to values that are a natural clear modality for this type. But a bartering tool.
I haven't dated a nine so I don't know about them, but I imagine if the nine is not clear as to why and what it is that they are attracted to about the person and the relation ship, then I could see that they would play some elaborate games.
But having said that most people play games with in relation ships and there will all ways be a way out there more amazing example as one looks into this interesting suject. |
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transformer
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Posted - 09 Jul 2012 : 3:01:16 PM
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| While 9w1's are not likely to play games (although they may triangulate, that is, date 2 partners seriously, and not informing their partners of the other person), 9w8's from my experience are VERY likely to play games in dating, as they often dont know their own minds. |
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chemical_art
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Posted - 09 Jul 2012 : 4:01:57 PM
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Can't speak of others (no where near close enough to type, let alone type another from a date).
All I can say is the closest to a "head game" i can do is put up mental walls and hold back while leaving a metaphoric rope, to see if the other is willing to use the rope to climb over my wall. Even then, its a defense mechanism to see if the other is interested. |
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Sister_Six
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Posted - 15 Jul 2012 : 2:12:37 PM
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Originally posted by rockthrower
I have found 8w7 is the type that plays the most games because commitment and intimacy don't seem to values that are a natural clear modality for this type. But a bartering tool.
This is my experience too. But I don't know if I was better in head games in my last relationship with 8w7. Or maybe this was the case:
"Unhealthy connection to 5 is characterized by morbid withdrawal and tendencies to paranoia, depression, and guilty brooding. Eights can isolate themselves and lapse into inaction. Often this comes after they have recognized their own cruelty or moral failures. Might experience crushing guilt, a feeling that they normally deny. Can then begin to cruelly self-punish, spiral into regret. Fears arise but not usefully. Go dead, feel powerless. Intellect is twisted in the service of self-hatred or heightened paranoia about betrayal by others. When deeply unhealthy there is a strong possibility of suicide."
(this is quote from here http://www.thechangeworks.com/ennprimer/browse8.html)
But probably I had nothing to do with his decision. |
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peekser
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Posted - 29 Dec 2012 : 11:23:17 PM
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Originally posted by QueenSaturday
In my experience, serial dating leads to paranoid fantasies and loose associations that have nothing to do with such-and-such a type being conniving.
The following suggestion is oversimplified and lacks insight, but maybe you should either take a moment to consider where your own fixations are limiting your potential for a deep connection, or if that doesn't interest you, put down Wisdom and pick up The Game.
Just what I was thinking! |
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peekser
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Posted - 30 Dec 2012 : 6:27:22 PM
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Originally posted by transformer
I think this will be an interesting topic. Ive been experiencing a lot of head games with type 9 women when it comes to dating. I was curious to see which types can be such a pain in the you know what to date? My vote is type 9. Thoughts?
Went for a walk and got to thinking about this question (other Nines out there who, like me, find they do their best thinking while walking?) And it dawned on me that the OBVIOUS answer--lol--is TWOs! OMG! I'm not talking about you healthy Twos, but Twos at average to less-healthy levels are all about emotional manipulation.
I was going through the types and thought (these are going to be heavy generalizations): Ones would probably feel too much integrity (and they are too serious)to play mind games (Hillary Clinton playing romantic mindgames?); Threes, I can't really see doing that because if you're not into them right away, they're out of there--fear of "failing" in a relationship. Fours? Mindgames? Push-pull dynamic at play, but is it a "mindgame"? I guess, yes, I can see that playing out with a Four... Fives--lol! No.They may pull away, but, again, it's not so much about playing a mindgame, but about needing to pull away! Six? I don't know. I find Sixes very endearing and don't see them as playing mindgames--except with themselves, of course--lol! So any "game" that is seeming to be played is probably more to protect themselves, and not so much an emotional manipulation. Sevens? Mindgames? Oh yeah--lol!! But, again, I don't see it so much as emotional manipulation as trying to keep all their options open and so sending mixed signals--and they are always "playing". 
Eights? Yeah, I can see that if there "revenge" impulse kicks in. I can see them mentally/emotionally playing (torturing!) someone if they feel betrayed or lied to, for example. Nines? Nines, like Fives, when they are just trying to get themselves some space, may give mixed messages. The other may be thinking, "Hey, he/she's into me", when all the Nine is being is nice so as not to hurt their feelings.Or they just haven't figured out for themselves how they really feel yet about someone and so, better not get too involved.
Then I remembered a Two friend of mine (in the past) who was always buying books like "The Rules" ( http://therulesbook.com/ ) and "He's Just Not That Into You", trying to figure out the best way to work a guy she wanted to get interested in her (inevitably the very one who wasn't interested, while there were all these others out there who were, or might have been).
And then I thought about a friend of mine who has been involved with a guy whose ex-wife is continuously playing mindgames, emotionally manipulating him--or at least still trying to. She's a 2w3, left him three years to go "find herself" (and get involved with someone else right away), but has never left him alone to move on. She's actively worked to undermine his new relationship. He was really devastated when she left him and so was quite vulnerable to her "attentions", until he started realizing that it wasn't at all about really wanting him back (no promises there!), but that she just didn't want his attentions going elsewhere--and she wanted to ensure, to the extent that she could, that she could have him back if everything else failed and she found herself alone. Sick stuff and very painful both to my friend and to this man.
My vote on the question goes to the Two. |
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