The Enneagram of Psychological Birth:
Putting Mahler’s Model to Work for Spiritual Transformation
By Dave Hall, Certified and Authorized Riso-Hudson Teacher, for the Volume II, July 2009 Enneagram Journal. Used with permission.
Gurdjieff famously described the Enneagram as a “universal symbol” whose inner dynamics could be used to explore and elucidate any question: “A man may be quite alone in the desert and he can trace the Enneagram in the sand and in it read the eternal laws of the universe. And every time he can learn something new, something he did not know before” (Ouspensky, 1949, p. 294). While there may be an element of Gurdjieff’s characteristic hyperbole in this statement, the Enneagram symbol has indeed proven, in the hands of its many subsequent students and practitioners, to be a formidable instrument for exploring and elucidating the human condition. Oscar Ichazo’s account of his discovery of the modern psychological Enneagram – which he described as an instantaneous crystallization of the entire structure of personality in a flash of intuition – seems to bear out Gurdjieff’s promise. Subsequent students of the Enneagram, such as Claudio Naranjo, A. H. Almaas, Don Riso, Russ Hudson, Helen Palmer, David Daniels, and Sandra Maitri – to name just a few – have all discovered further patterns and interconnections through prolonged study of the Enneagram symbol.
It is in this spirit and tradition that I approach my current topic. This essay is partly in response to Bea Chestnut’s Enneagram Journal article on object relations theory and the Enneagram (Chestnut, 2008), as well as to the lively debate that ensued in the pages of the Enneagram Monthly. In her journal article, Chestnut offered a way to align the models of several object-relations theorists (Margaret Mahler, Melanie Klein, Thomas Ogden, and Heinz Kohut) with the Enneagram, in order to describe more precisely “how early relationships form the basis of personality development” (p. 22-23). In her treatment of Mahler, whose model I will concentrate on in this essay, Chestnut aligns the key developmental sub-phases of differentiation, practicing, and rapprochement with the Body, Head, and Heart Centers of the Enneagram.
Chestnut’s article is well-constructed and thought- provoking, but her alignment of Mahler’s model with the Enneagram seems a bit murky at times (e.g. Type Eight is located in the differentiation group but is also used as an example of practicing), and her description of rapprochement, with all its emphasis on fear and ambivalence, sounds to me a lot more like Type Six than like the Heart Center types. So I would like to enter into a dialogue with Chestnut’s essay, but I would propose that instead of organizing the discussion thematically around the Centers, and tracing Mahler’s sequence in the order of Body Center/Head Center /Heart Center, we organize it along the lines of the object-relations triads worked out by Don Riso and Russ Hudson, and map Mahler’s progression in the other direction, starting with Type Nine and moving clockwise around the circle back to Nine.
- Rhodes interprets Chestnut’s essay as arguing that childhood experiences cause our type to form, whereas Rhodes believes that our Enneagram types are inborn; and
- She believes that recent research has discredited Mahler’s model, particularly by demonstrating that infants are aware of their differentiation from the mother much earlier than Mahler thought when she did her classic study in the 1970s.
- I too believe our Enneagram type is inborn. Therefore, I will not argue that experiences during the universal process of separating and individuating cause our type to form. Rather, I am suggesting that each type will experience a particularly poignant developmental imprint at that type’s corresponding developmental stage.
- Rhodes’s point that researchers have identified differentiation experiences earlier than Mahler suspected in the 1970s is valid. Mahler herself acknowledged as much later in her career (Bergman, 2000, p. xvi). But this research spurred colleagues to subtly revise Mahler’s original model rather than to reject it outright. As Fred Pine notes in his preface to the 2000 edition of Mahler’s study, all of the phases of infant development are dynamic and contain different strands of the developmental process simultaneously (xii). Yet, crucially, each phase gives rise to “moments” of particularly intense affective experience, as for example the “moments [of] merger” with the mother occurring during the phase Mahler described more monolithically as the “dual unity” of mother and infant (ix). My working hypothesis in this essay is precisely that such intense affective “moments” of experience leave their imprints on our developing consciousness, and that a particularly indelible imprint is left by the experiences that occur in the phase corresponding to our inborn type temperament.
Just as I am not arguing for a cause-and-effect relationship between these developmental stages and our individual Enneagram type, I am not looking to “prove” the correspondences between the Enneagram and Mahler’s model in the sense that one system is being called upon to validate the other. Rather, in the spirit of Gurdjieff’s words quoted at the beginning of this essay, I hope that bringing the dynamic structure of the Enneagram into contact with Mahler’s model will further illuminate an intriguing aspect of human development: how, because of our inborn type, each of us will selectively respond to certain developmental experiences more than others, in the process building our unique personality structures on top of the temperamental substrate provided by our Enneagram type. The real “proof” of the endeavor, it seems to me, is whether or not my readers feel, at the end, that both of these systems have been further illumined through bringing them together.
Mahler’s Developmental Sequence and the Nine Types
We can chart a clockwise, spiraling journey around the Enneagram in which Type Nine functions as both alpha and omega, though in this transformative journey the omega is also another alpha, what Gurdjieff would call the higher “do” that begins the next octave of development.
Type Nine: Mahler’s “Dual Unity”
The “alpha version” of the Nine correlates with Mahler’s description of the earliest infant experiences in the symbiotic phase, in which “the infant behaves and functions as though he and his mother were . . . a dual unity within one common boundary” (Mahler et al., 1975, p. 44). To repeat Susan Rhodes’ caveat, this phase is not as monolithically undifferentiated as Mahler originally thought, but it should suffice to recognize that it contains the most intense moments of merger experience, and to ponder its similarities to the subsequent expression of the Nine’s personality type.
For is it not the ongoing and central struggle of the Nine to discern and learn to assert her own, unique being? To escape the gravitational pull of the surrounding human matrix so as to truly know her own will, her own aliveness, her own desires? Again, I am not arguing that this early experience causes the type to develop, for we all go through this phase and we are clearly not all Nines. But if I come into this world as a budding Nine, doesn’t it make sense that this early phase would exert a strong pull on my psyche, would leave an indelible imprint that I would then carry with me throughout the subsequent development and maturation of my personality?
As I noted in the introduction, however, this is not the whole story of how the Enneagram correlates with object- relations theory. Don Riso and Russ Hudson have worked out a triadic model, using the theories of Karen Horney and W. R. D. Fairbairn, that identifies both the primary object each type relates to and the dominant affect of that object relation. The diagram below shows how the model was worked out:
The Riso-Hudson Object-Relations Groups
|Attachment (Fairbairn’s “Ideal Object”)||Frustration (Fairbairn’s “Exciting Object”)||Rejection (Fairbairn’s “Rejecting Object”)|
(Horney’s “moving away”)
Primary “object” = Both the Nurturing and the Protective Figures
(Horney’s “moving against”)
Primary “object” = the Nurturing Figure
(Horney’s “moving towards”)
Primary “object” = the Protective Figure
This diagram arrays the “Hornevian” or “Social Styles” triads against the “Dominant Affect” triads, which are based on a re-working of Fairbairn’s primary affects. Don Riso’s discovery that the Hornevian groups were united not only by their shared “social style,” but also by a common primary object, allows us to identify for each type a dominant affect toward a specific primary object. Note that the Attachment affect, which Fairbairn considered to be the primordial affect, aligns with the inner triangle of the Enneagram’s primary types (3-6-9). Note also the repeated sequence, as we follow the types around the circumference of the Enneagram, of Attachment-Frustration-Rejection. Fairbairn’s formulation of the three primary affects describes an analogous dialectical progression within the individual psyche.
Returning to type Nine, we can see that this type’s core object-relation dynamic is rooted in attachment to both the nurturing and the protective figures. (The nurturing figure is usually associated most strongly with the mother but is more broadly the figure that first holds, nourishes, and comforts the infant. The protective figure is usually associated with the father, but it too can be more broadly understood as the figure that protects, provides guidance and structure, and at certain crucial points offers an alternative to the energies of the nurturing figure.) With the Nine, even though we see a crucial developmental imprint occurring in the early part of the symbiotic phase, which is primarily an experience of the nurturing figure, the ongoing interplay of the type with its environment later pulls the protective figure into its attachment orbit as well. Again, this description accords well with what we know of the Nine personality type and its profound attachment to the entire, enveloping human environment.
In my discussion of the subsequent types I will end with a look at the essential quality of each type, an aspect of our true nature which has become obscured by our ego- structures. When recovered, the essential quality heals the type’s core object-relations wound, for each type’s primary object-relation dynamic represents the ego’s attempt to resolve the type’s tensions and dilemmas on the plane of internalized images of others. With type Nine, however, this discussion must wait until we encounter the Nine, again, at the end of this first spiraling journey around the circle.
Type One: The Unity is Split
Early on in the symbiotic phase, the infant experiences moments of disruption and dissatisfaction as well as merger and unity. So, for example, the milk-giving breast is not always there as soon as the baby wants it. Nor can the baby always discharge uncomfortable sensations as soon as they arise but may have to wait for outside help, for example by being “burped.” Such early rhythms of distress and discharge, notes Mahler, “help the infant in time to differentiate between a ‘pleasurable’/‘good’ quality and a ‘painful’/‘bad’ quality of experience” (p. 43). Such a developmental imprint as this would seem to align itself naturally with the embryonic personality structure of a young Type One.
For is it not core to the One’s journey to seek out the good and the right, and to align himself with it? To recognize the bad, the wrong, the defective, and to shun or seek to correct it? When the primordial attachment to the nurturing environment is riven by this early experience of division, frustration arises as the natural response. Why can’t everything be good, always? One’s can be tormented by such questions in ways the other types can scarcely imagine. As I continue to grow and develop as a One, I will ultimately pin this frustration affect primarily on the protective figure, on the figure that is supposed to provide structure and guidance in my world.
The essential quality that the One is seeking to reconnect with is called, in the Riso-Hudson teachings, Essential Alignment, which is a direct awareness of the intrinsic rightness or “suchness” of Being. Although we all have access, in moments of complete openness, to any of the essential qualities, each type comes into the world with a special sensitivity to its own corresponding quality, and thus also to any experience of loss of contact with that quality. Indeed, the vivid developmental imprints I am arguing for in this essay are precisely such felt moments of contact with and alienation from the type’s essential quality. So, for the One, the soul’s inherent affinity for the experience of Essential Alignment is disrupted by the splitting of the infant’s experience into categories of “good” and “bad.” When I recover my contact with Essential Alignment, I heal this wound of splitting in my experience of Being. Aligned again with the inherent rightness and “suchness” of Being, my soul need no longer judge and criticize and seek to improve its experience.
Type Two: Love-Longing
While still in the symbiotic phase, Mahler tells us, “the infant begins dimly to perceive need satisfaction as coming from some need-satisfying part-object – albeit still from within the orbit of the…symbiotic dual unity – and he turns libidinally toward that mothering source or agency. The need gradually becomes a wish and later the specific ‘object-bound’ affect of longing” (p.46, emphasis Mahler’s). Even through the thickets of Mahler’s highly specialized vocabulary, it is possible to sense the primordial possibility of heartbreak dawning in the infant’s consciousness. For to the same degree that the infant can experience sweet merging love with the mother can she also suffer the devastation of its loss or interruption. In the dialectic of these primal affects, the Nine’s attachment establishes the ground in which the One’s frustration can take root, and the experience of frustration now begets the specter of rejection for the Two.
The rejection affect is a complex, double-edged set of feelings, part fear of being rejected, part rejecting activity, but we can see it clearly at work in the Two’s personality structure. We see it in the Two’s intense love needs, born out of the fear that there really might be no love in the world, and often expressed as a fervent rejection of these very needs. I think of Simone Weil’s poignant formulation: “The danger is not that the soul should doubt whether there is any bread, but that, by a lie, it should persuade itself that it is not hungry” (quoted in Kornfield, 2008, p. 28).
As I mature as a Two, I will come to experience rejection most vividly from an internalized protective figure – perhaps an internalized image of the father competing with me for mother’s love, or perhaps the paternal superego punishing me for my own love-needs – and I will come to over-identify with the nurturing figure, the source of love, learning to dispense love to others while pretending I don’t need it for myself.
The quality that I am struggling to reconnect with as a Two is called, simply, Essential Love: the direct recognition that love is an essential aspect of Being, that it pervades Being, that Being is, in fact, made of love. When I integrate this quality, I need no longer manipulate the world around me to give me a sense of being loved by reflecting back that I am giving love.
Type Three: Mutual Cueing
Even the most primitive differentiation…can only take place if a psychophysiological equilibrium can be attained. This depends first on a certain matching of the discharge patterns of the mother and the young infant, and later, on their interactional patterns, behaviorally discernible in mutual cueing, as well as in the infant’s earliest adaptive patterning and in his receptive capacities with the ‘good enough’ holding behavior of his symbiotic mother (p. 49, emphasis added).
We see here the early imprint, which will be felt most vividly by the infant Three, of a subtle and mutually pleasurable dance of mirroring between the baby and the mother. Still largely within the charmed circle of the symbiotic embrace, yet beginning to discern her own role within the symbiotic field, the baby learns to adapt her behavior to elicit the desired response: “When I smile, mother smiles back.”
We need not go far to recognize the Three’s personality structure reflected in this early behavior. As a maturing Three, I will continue to adapt myself to the cues I perceive in the human world around me, giving back what I perceive is wanted so I will feel mirrored and valued. It will be the source of my greatest strength and my greatest weakness that I will learn to do this so skillfully, for I will probably get the validation I seek, but too often at the expense of knowing, fundamentally, who is seeking it. This is the burden of the Three’s deep attachment to external mirroring, first by the mother, and later by the entire world related to as a field of nurturing validation.
Thus has the dialectic among the primary affects led us back to attachment, a reaction to the fear and separation of the rejection affect, and so the rhythm will continue around the circle. Structurally, it is worth noting that, like the Three, the Six also functions as a transitional phase, in that case between the separation-individuation phase proper and the later phase of consolidation. Add to this the Nine’s function as both beginning and endpoint, and we can see that the inner triangle of “primary types” functions here, as so often proves to be the case when we closely examine the inner dynamics of the Enneagram, as a quasi-autonomous structure-within-a-structure.
Before we leave the Three, however, we should take a moment to contemplate the lost quality, called Essential Value, which resolves the Three’s object-relations dilemma. For when I come to rest in the direct knowing of my own, essential value, which is not dependent upon anything that I must do or achieve but is rather an intrinsic aspect of my Being, I see clearly how I have projected my own inherent value onto an external “source,” which I then spend my life courting to come back to me. I can choose to rest, instead, in the validating embrace of my own Being.
Type Four: Forming an Identity
Mahler called the holding environment established between mother and child “the symbiotic organizer – the midwife of individuation [and] psychological birth” (p. 47). We are at the threshold now of the separation-individuation phase, which in its various sub-phases will leave its characteristic imprints on types Four through Eight. Mahler describes this complex phase as made up of “two intertwined, but not always commensurate or proportionately progressing, developmental tracks. One is the track of individuation, the evolution of intrapsychic autonomy, perception, memory, cognition, reality testing; the other is the intrapsychic developmental track of separation that runs along [the lines of] distancing, boundary formation, and disengagement from mother” (p. 63, emphasis added). In types Four through Eight, we can see in each type an emphasis on one of these tracks over the other, with the exception of the Six, in which the salient struggle revolves around the attempt to balance the conflicting claims on the ego of separation vs. individuation.
The first sub-phase of separation-individuation Mahler calls differentiation, and here we see the track of individuation being emphasized. A primary signpost of this sub-phase is the infant’s “straining his body away from mother,” in order to visually examine and touch her face, as he seeks to cognitively individuate both his own and his mother’s unique features. Around seven to eight months, the infant begins to exhibit the classic “stranger reaction,” in which he actively explores new faces, “checking the unfamiliar against the already familiar” (p. 54). The infant is creating the early building blocks of what will later become a sense of his own unique identity, and he is beginning to break out of the charmed circle of mirroring by the nurturing figuring, exploring a wider world in which he knows himself largely against the strangeness and difference of others.
If I am a Four, this search for what it is that distinguishes me and makes me unique will be a central preoccupation of my life, and much of my search will be marked by a pervasive feeling of frustration, both with myself in the difficult search for inner identity, and with the world around me for not sufficiently appreciating and validating my uniqueness. In terms of the ongoing dialectic of the object-relations affects, the preceding phase of attachment to a mirroring environment has given rise to a deep frustration with that environment’s limitations and inadequacies. So strong is the frustration with both the nurturing and the protective figures that a commonly reported belief or fantasy of Fours is that they were somehow “switched” at birth and have grown up in the wrong family!
If, however, I am able to reconnect with my Essential Identity, I recognize that I am not me simply or solely because I can make myself appear different from all that is not-me. I am who I am by virtue of my inherent and inalienable identity, the subtle and unique flavor that I alone bring to Being. Recognizing and knowing this directly, I need no longer fret over my resumé of unique traits and characteristics. I am the precise and unique vantage point on Being that I am – and that is enough.
Type Five: Practicing Separation
Mahler called the next sub-phase of separation- individuation practicing, and here the emphasis is clearly on separation. This is the sub-phase in which the child’s growing abilities to crawl or walk enable him to go off alone, separating himself from the parental sphere so he can explore a wider world and come to know his caregivers from a distance. Mahler characterizes the development of upright walking as “the greatest step in human individuation . . . [when] from an entirely new vantage point [the child] finds unexpected and changing perspectives, pleasures, and frustrations” (p. 70-71). Mahler further noted that “the maturation of locomotor and other functions during the early practicing period had the most salutary effect on those children who had an intense but uncomfortable symbiotic relationship” (p. 66). Mahler had no model like the Enneagram to help her understand predisposed type differences, but she seems to have clearly registered the rejection affect of those children who struggled most ardently to break out of the symbiotic sphere in order to plunge into the practicing phase with all its “pleasure in mastery” (p. 68).
As a maturing Five, I will continue to experience this double-edged affect, anticipating rejection by the rest of the world even as I actively reject its claims upon me. Fives famously channel this practicing, separation energy into the realms of the mind, striking out on bold intellectual journeys that take them to wondrous but lonely places. Fives often believe they do not want to be intruded upon and yet may suffer from feelings of loneliness and isolation as a result of their withdrawal. Riso and Hudson note that Fives are often “psychologically stuck in the separation phase” (Riso & Hudson, 1999, p. 212), and I would interpret this as a reference, more specifically, to the practicing sub-phase.
We can see here how the Five has gone beyond the Four’s frustration with the parental/family matrix to a more thoroughgoing rejection of the field of nurturing and protective figures. Deep in the Five’s psyche is a belief that she must withdraw from contact with Being in order to gain a mastery, through intellectual or mental understanding, of Being.
The essential quality Fives must recover is a kind of gnosis, of direct knowing through contact with the thing known: so the resolution of the Five’s object-relations dilemma through the recovery of Essential Understanding involves the recognition that, as a Five, I have learned to withdraw myself from direct contact with the world so as to understand it from a place of refuge. This applies not only to other people but even to the world of ideas I cherish. When I embrace the full contact of direct knowing – of ideas, of the world, of other people, of my own body in the moment of knowing – I recognize that I need no longer separate myself from and reject the world in order to know it.
Type Six: Support vs. Engulfment
The practicing phase, during which the child explores a wider world, separated from the mother or nurturing figure, is followed by a period of profound ambivalence and emotional re-calibration, called by Mahler the rapprochement phase. During this phase, “as the toddler’s awareness of separateness grows – stimulated by his maturationally acquired ability to move away physically from his mother and by his cognitive growth – he seems to have an increased need, a wish for mother to share with him every one of his new skills and experiences, as well as a great need for the object’s [i.e. the mother’s] love” (p. 77, emphasis Mahler’s). Partially unnerved by his newfound ability to forge out on his own, the child now seeks an “optimal distance” from the mother, played out in a characteristic approach-avoid pattern of behavior: “the ‘shadowing’ of mother and the darting away from her, with the expectation of being chased and swept up into her arms [,] indicate both his wish for reunion with the love object and his fear of reengulfment by it” (p. 77).
As the rapprochement drama plays out in the further ego- development of the Six, it becomes, in a sense, a struggle to find the optimal balance between separation and individuation. In other words, how can I achieve the autonomy and individuation I desire without feeling too separated from the ground of parental support? As a Six, I will tend to re-enact this ambivalent drama with everyone and every situation I encounter. The strong attachment I form to the protective figure highlights the importance of this figure as guidance in my bid for independence and autonomy within the nurturing field (Riso and Hudson, 1999). The original protective figure in my life will be the prototype of all the figures and structures I subsequently look to for support as I try to maintain my autonomy without straying too far into the unknown and unsupported.
When I reconnect with my Essential Awakeness, I begin to resolve this persistent dilemma. Awakeness connects me with my own internal guidance, an awareness of how to respond to each moment as it arises, rather than forever worrying about what might arise in the future and rehearsing scenarios about how I might then deal with it. When I reconnect with my Awakeness, my attachment to the protective and guiding figure, in all its myriad manifestations, relaxes into a trust in the moment-by- moment unfolding of Being. I trust that, in each moment, I know how to balance my drive toward individuation with my need for supportive orientation to the world around me.
Type Seven: The World is My Playground
Following the rapprochement phase, the child moves into the final sub-phase in Mahler’s model: the consolidation of the separated and individuated self. Mahler notes that the main developmental task of this sub-phase is twofold: “(1) the achievement of a definite, in certain aspects lifelong, individuality, and (2) the attainment of a certain degree of object constancy” (109). We see here again the twin strands of (1) individuation and (2) separation, now being consolidated and stabilized.
Mahler first discusses the separation strand, noting that “the establishment of affective (emotional) object constancy depends upon the gradual internalization of a constant, positively cathected, inner image of the mother” (109). The key developmental imprint for the Seven, I believe, involves an affect of frustration precisely around this internalized image of the nurturing figure. As a Seven, my Passion of Gluttony will be a response to my deep sense of frustration as I attempt to obtain constant satisfaction from the nurturing environment. I will struggle to achieve the object constancy Mahler describes, fearing as I do that anything I do not experience or consume in this moment may not be around to experience or consume later.
Mahler highlights the use of “transitional” objects and activities as the child seeks to move beyond the rapprochement phase and to consolidate object constancy (p. 100). Typical transitional objects noted by Mahler’s team were a favorite doll, a feeding bottle, or the chair that mother was just sitting in. As a transitional activity, Mahler also noted children consuming large amounts of pretzels and cookies after mother left the room, in effect seeking to “fill” the absence of the nurturing figure. Riso and Hudson note that even adult Sevens “seem to be still in search of transitional objects” (Riso & Hudson, 1999, p. 265). As a Seven, indeed, I will learn to turn my entire world into a vast collection of transitional objects. Every pleasurable experience I can obtain will be a way of managing my separation from the nurturing source and keeping the resulting frustration and anxiety at bay.
I can resolve this unceasing struggle for satisfaction, however, by re-connecting with my Essential Freedom. Essential Freedom is not a freedom from deprivation or constriction or dissatisfaction. It is an inherent dimension of freedom within Being. When I reconnect with this quality, I realize I am free to experience everything – even pain and deprivation and disappointment. What’s more, I realize I am still free even within these experiences. The experience of Essential Freedom annihilates my ego-agendas around selectively experiencing myself and my world, around my constant striving to obtain satisfaction and to avoid pain.
Type Eight: Standing on my Own Two Feet
We are approaching the final phase of the individual psyche’s “birth” into the world. Mahler describes this sub- phase as presenting especially difficult challenges, and notes that for some children it is much harder than for others. I would suggest that, particularly if one has come into the world with the Type Eight temperament, the imprints of this phase will be experienced as a painful assault on one’s integrity of being.
Mahler describes the inevitable trauma involved in consolidating the separation from the nurturing figure, highlighting the role of aggression in the child’s attempt to fully individuate into an autonomous and independent self: “the less predictably reliable or the more intrusive the love object’s [i.e. the nurturing figure’s] emotional attitude has been [or has been experienced as], the greater the extent to which the object remains or becomes an unassimilated foreign body – a ‘bad’ introject in the intrapsychic economy. In the effort to eject this ‘bad introject,’ derivatives of the aggressive drive come into play” (p.117, emphasis Mahler’s). Moreover, for all the children she observed, Mahler notes “active resistance to the demands of adults, [and] a great need and a wish (often still unrealistic) for autonomy (independence). Recurrent mild or moderate negativism, which seems to be essential for the development of a sense of identity, is also characteristic of this subphase” (p. 116).
In this sub-phase, we can see the building blocks for much of the Type Eight’s ego-structure: a forceful resistance to the impingements of the outside world, an aggression-fueled assertion of independence and autonomy, and feelings of rejection (and/or intrusion) by the nurturing figure that inspire, in turn, a strong affect of rejection toward that figure. It seems that we must utter an existential “NO!” – and with especial vehemence if we are Eights – in order to fully achieve and defend our psychological birth from the nurturing matrix.
To achieve my full spiritual birthright as an Eight, however, I need to reconnect with my Essential Strength. This is not a strength that I use to force or overpower or protect myself from my environment. Sometimes also called Aliveness or Immediacy, Essential Strength is the manifestation of the vital life force of Being within me. It is an aspect of Being we all experience, but if I am an Eight it is my life-blood, my home, the aspect of Being that most feels like me. When I am in touch with it, I know my autonomous, individuated self in my bones, and I can proclaim instead the essential “YES!” that brings me into full contact with myself in the world.
Type Nine (Revisited): Wholeness and Connection
We can now connect with the Essential Wholeness of Type Nine, and we can understand this quality all the better for having journeyed around the circle and arrived here once again. In this “higher octave,” the Type Nine teaches us how we can be fully individuated from the matrix of all our internalized nurturing and protective figures and yet be deeply and intimately connected to the world around us. Indeed, one of the most important lessons of this journey around the circle of the Enneagram is that we cannot experience truly meaningful connection until we have achieved our full individuation: before that point, all our connections and contacts are strongly colored by various forms of object-relation transference. Put another way, we are primarily relating to our own internalized images of others until we achieve true individuation. So the Essential Wholeness of Type Nine is both a wholeness and self-sufficiency of the fully individuated self and a deep and abiding connection to the whole of Being.
(Gurdjieff, quoted in Ouspensky, 1949.)